Being Fully Present

I read recently that mindfulness is the psychological process of bringing one’s attention to experiences occurring in the present moment (Wikipedia) and in my opinion mindfulness simply means being fully present in the moment.  Most of us are challenged living in the moment because we were taught that multi-tasking is the way to go.  I am committed to live more mindfully because I realize that I have wasted a lot of time, which is a valuable asset.  You see once the time has come and gone you can’t it back!  I have lost keys, cell phones, I have gotten distracted while conversing with friends and loved ones, and misplaced my wallet or purse more times that I would like to count! all due to not being fully present.

So the next time you are at a movie, worship service, engaged in a conversation or out to lunch or dinner with a friend, please think about putting your cell phone away and certainly no texting while driving.  Life is too short, so give each moment your full undivided attention and  I promise you that you will create beautiful, lasting memories. You will be blessed, as well as you will be a blessing to others.



Dealing With Grief During the Holidays

During the holidays we tend to focus on buying gifts for family and friends as well as make plans to spend time with them.  What I invite you to consider is that there are many who experience a sadness around the holidays due to loss of family and friends due to death, divorce, or separation and we want to keep them in our prayers.  Some people may have even experienced loss of employment or one of their four legged family members. Whatever the case may be, I pray that our eyes are opened and we are sensitive and supportive to those around us.  I challenge each of us to be a light in this dark world and show love to those in need

In case you are interested each Thursday evening from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve –Style By Britt’s Facebook Page is offering support by hosting interviews with people who have experienced loss and the interviewees share their stories of how they cope with grief during the holidays.  Check it out and be encouraged.

Take Time to Reflect On Your Blessings

Thanksgiving, is a holiday that it celebrated by many people of different faiths.  It is a season where most of us are on one accord; which is demonstrated by showing love, gratitude and kindness to one another.  This may also be a good time to reflect on your blessings. It doesn’t matter whether your blessings are large (new job, house, or car) or small (running water, electricity, ability to move on your own).  Earlier this year I created a blessing jar; and what I do is write down unexpected blessings ( a good conversation with a friend, a surprise visitor. or gift) that I am grateful for–it doesn’t matter if I am the giver or the receiver.  My intention is to take time to reflect on by blessings by setting aside time to read them one by one at the end of this year or the beginning of 2018.

My question to you is how do you give thanks for your blessings? How do you reflect on God’s goodness?

Tips for Healthy Relationships

It is important to surrender all of our relationships and marriages to God so that we open the doors of opportunities for God to transform our views and the views of the other persons in whom we are in relationship with. We must determine and establish our personal values and be willing to share them with the people in our lives.  By doing so it will set boundaries for yourself as well as others.

Next, we must listen to each other with care and compassion and accept each other’s position on the issues in which you disagree and if you are married, work toward a compromise that you both can live with.  Finally, allow the other person to grow and mature on their own (do not force your views or opinions upon them).  If you value marriage, family and friendships then make choices that will bring you closer together rather than further apart.

Remember that love is patient, love is kind.  It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.  It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres (1 Corinthians 4-7).  It is my prayer that we show more acts of love to one another in the world today.  Because it is all about love.


The Gift of Time

Most of us take for granted the gift of the present moment.  We tend to focus on what we plan to do tomorrow, next week, next year, or even make plans for celebrations years in advance. While it is good to set long term and short term goals, it is equally important to be thankful and grateful for the present moments of life, as well as where you currently are in life.  After all, it could be worse. We rob living in the present by not being fully present.  For example, as I look at both of my arms I can see old scars where I have burned myself while cooking because of being distracted. These scars serve as reminders to let me know what happens when I am not fully present. Another example of not living in the present moment is when we are engaged in a conversation and our mind begin to drift away as we are distracted by scrolling through social media, texts or thoughts of what we need to do next and not actively listening or giving undivided attention to the other person that is speaking.

It is God that gives us the gift of time. Our time here on earth is an valuable asset that is a given to all whether you are rich or poor! When you wake up do you thank God for another day? Do you meditate and pray? Are you living with purpose? When you make plans do you commit them to the Lord?  The gift of time is given to us in moments, we truly do not know what will happen from one moment to the next or what each new day will bring. We tend to think that the next moment is guaranteed; However, it is because of the grace and faithfulness of God, as well as His goodness, mercies, and blessings that we are here today, so my question to you is how will you use your gift?

Did you know…

Did you know that you are wonderfully and fearfully made (Psalms 139:14) and that nothing can separate you from the love of God (Romans 8:38-8:39).  Did you know that God heals you from all of your brokenness (Psalms 143:3) and that you do not need to be afraid of anything or anyone because the Lord is with you (Psalm 118:6).

So don’t allow the world to define who you are, or what should be important or a priority, and when you go through challenges in this life don’t get stuck in your feelings. Instead meditate and rely on the truth of God’s word and His promises to encourage, guide, and strengthen you as you travel on this journey called “life”.  Trust Him and trust His timing in all things.